Are you stuck in a rut?

Nov 23, 2023 | Blog | 0 comments

What do I mean by ‘stuck in a rut’?

Well, I mean being caught up in a way of life or routine that you feel needs to change because it doesn’t ‘fit’ with you.

Many people might go for years without realizing they are ‘stuck in a rut’ as they just get on with life and deal with everything that is thrown at them. Then, one day, it might hit you, and you may experience a bit of a panic. So, how can you pre-empt this? I suggest you run through a checklist to assess how your life is:


How did you get on with the list? How are you feeling? Please don’t worry if you have ticked several of the boxes… you have come to the right place.

Being stuck in a rut is a bit like depression. You might feel low, lack interest and energy and have little pleasure or excitement in your daily life. It is as if your life is less colourful. If you have recognised that you might be stuck in a rut then that is the first step out of it. Please don’t just stick with it, life can be so much better. If you feel unfulfilled but don’t know where to start to make things better or if you know you want and need change but feel right out of your depth… help is at hand. Well done for acknowledging the situation.

Help is at hand

Stuck in a rut?

There are many things you can do to help yourself… it won’t be easy and it may be helpful to get a friend or a coach on board for support.

The first step to getting out of the rut is to examine the cause. A little examination of your life, personal and professional, will help you identify any stresses and strains. Think about what brings you happiness in life, what makes you unhappy, whether you are doing things because you want to or because you think you should, and whether you are in a job or relationship because you really want to be there or because it is easier to stick with it.

Here are some tips to help yourself out of the rut

Put yourself first for a change

Don’t just get on with all the normal tasks in your day and caring for others. Think about yourself, and give yourself some self-care. Sit down with a cuppa and read a book for half an hour, take a power nap or have a long soak in a bubble bath… it will be good for YOU.

Get out in the fresh air

It is amazing what a walk in the outdoors can do to boost your mood, reduce your stress and improve your well-being. Once you are outside, try to forget about all your worries and focus on your surroundings, this will help you relax and fill you with renewed energy.

Do something different

This can be a game-changer if you find yourself following the same routine day in and day out. Whether you meet up with a friend for a cuppa, visit a new place, or go to the cinema, it might be a little daunting but it will be good for YOU.

Plan something!

A little treat or even a trip away to look forward to is an excellent mood booster. Having something in your diary will add some excitement and joy.

Get motivated

This is a tough one as when you are stuck in a rut it is really hard to motivate yourself to do something different. First… make it small. Pick something small that you want to do and that you know is achievable, that’s the first step to success; then do it again and again and it will become enjoyable and easier. Second, reward yourself for accomplishment.

Rediscover your purpose

Lastly, and perhaps most importantly, you might feel stuck in a rut because you have lost your purpose. This could be because of a life change ~ children growing up and being less dependent on you, children leaving home, a career change or retirement ~ and you feel you have lost your direction and purpose in life. In any of these situations your ‘purpose’ has changed and you need to change your goals and ambitions so that they relate to your new situation and set of circumstances.

If, for example, children have grown and flown or any other change means you have more time on your hands, then perhaps consider finding a job if you haven’t been working, do some volunteering, participate in local events or with your church, help friends with a project or pick up a new hobby. Any new activity will boost your mental health and well-being and will give you a new sense of purpose.

So if you find yourself thinking ‘There must be more to life than this’ or ‘How do I develop greater spiritual awareness in my life?’ Please get in touch and I can help you find your way through mentoring and well-being coaching.

Jackie Webster Welcome